The geneticist wants smacking. It's plain, bolt-upright stupid to advise against genetic testing for what is a treatable condition. What on earth do they mean by "nothing can be done, anyway"?
If your child has HHT, she will require testing for PAVMs. In some countries, though not here, CAVMs are also routinely tested in HHT patients. If you know she has HHT, then you'll know to get the tests done. If you don't get the genetic tests, you won't know.
On the other hand, if she hasn't got the genetic defect, you can all relax.
How is this a difficult decision?